MARRIAGE---write your own relationship contract
Designer Marriage is our basic written
resource for this
seminar.
Some couple will skip lightly over some Questions
because they are not relevant.
For example, if there are no children,
the Questions in PART III are not relevant.
Likewise, if you share no property in common,
the Questions in PART V are not relevant.
In the book, each Question begins with the default
Answer,
the Answer you embrace if you follow the pattern of conventional
marriage.
But then several alternative Answers are explored.
The table of contents on the Internet enables you to
read
the first page of discussion for each Question
and several other pages from Designer Marriage.
If the Answers for your relationship depart
significantly from
traditional marriage,
then you are creating an alternative
relationship pattern.
Many people who have meaningful loving relationship
are resisting and
transcending
the conventional patterns of standard marriage.
Especially young adults
are questioning the standard patterns of legal marriage.
But instead of merely refusing to get officially married,
they should define for themselves
just how they will conduct their relationships outside of marriage
or making some changes to conventional marriage.
A few of the couples who will take part in this
seminar
will be married couples who are reviewing their original plans.
Instead of getting divorced, they might be able to negotiate
a new relationship contract with each other.
The new agreement will attempt to correct specific problems
they have encountered in their first official marriage
or discovered in their first marriage-like relationship.
Others in this seminar who have never married
will be able to benefit from the discussion of specific problems
encountered by couples
who have tried the marriage-model for 'loving'
relationships.
Altho this seminar is basically for couples
(triples, etc.)
who are ready to discuss the nitty-gritty of their actual relationships,
people who want to attend without a partner will also be welcome.
The facilitator is in an on-going relationship that has now lasted 37
years.
But his partner will not be attending this seminar.
Others (whether in current relationships or not)
are also welcome to
attend alone.
You might get some good ideas for your next relationship.
Once we get started, the actual group of people who
make up this
seminar
will decide the exact content of our discussions
and the length of time we will devote to each Question.
Thus, this seminar could last three weeks or seven weeks.
We shall see just what emerges from our times together.
Our main written resource
